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WHAT ARE YOUR FEELINGS SAYING?
by Hugh Durham
Understanding Your Emotions & The Feelings They Create
“Your emotions make you human. Even the unpleasant ones have a purpose. Don’t lock them away. If you ignore them, they just get louder and angrier.”
― Sabaa Tahir
It isn’t always easy to know exactly what we’re feeling or why
We assume we know ourselves better than anyone else. But often it’s difficult for us to identify the specific emotions we’re feeling, or to correctly determine why we’re feeling that way. And sometimes, we find that what we know we need and want to do we don’t feel like doing. This leads to issues like procrastination, over-eating, etc and moves us away from our dreams and ambitions.
Although this emotional confusion is pretty normal, it can lead to misunderstandings, sometimes serious ones, in our selves, and our relationships.
The good news
All feelings are good! Does that surprise you? They are the way our unconscious and subconscious mind attempt to communicate with us. They are our built-in guidance system…an internal voice attempting to move you in the right direction. Toward your goals and feeling more satisfied with your life.
The bad news
What we consider “bad” feelings are those we misunderstand. First, we’ve become so adept at hiding and burying our feelings that we’ve lost touch with what they are telling us. When we ignore our feelings, our basic needs remain unmet. Our lives become filled with frustration, stress, and eventually depression. Second, most of our beliefs about the world and ourselves are formed from the ages of two to seven, when learning is subconscious. Think about the misconceptions that may be programmed into your subconscious… This is why we experience emotional dissonance, self-limiting beliefs, and negative self-talk.
FEAR AND HURT ARE OFTEN THE UNDERLYING EMOTIONS IN SITUATIONS WHERE WE EXPRESS ANGER, ANNOYANCE AND FRUSTRATION
Dare to question your feelings and get to the inner core. Feelings lead to beneficial responses when properly understood. They’re signals indicating that you’re either fulfilling or not fulfilling your needs, wants, and desires.
The more often you can correctly identify what you’re feeling, understand why you’re feeling it — including what “soft” vulnerable emotion might be driving it — and take that big risk of honestly expressing it, the better it is for you.
A Little Background
Feelings are the physical manifestation of our emotions. More precisely, the unconscious mind creates all the physiological phenomena associated with the emotion our subconscious mind has generated.
Think about the way you tend to describe feelings:
“I feel it in the pit of my stomach”
“I’ve got a lump in my throat”
“My heart feels fizzy like I could fly”
As you can see, we associate our emotions with their physical manifestations.
How misinterpreting and burying our feelings affects us
Emotion is pure motivation, a pressure to act. When we suppress our feelings, we’re suppressing this pressure inside of us…
Emotional resonance is a phenomenon where memories and emotions from the past are activated when a current event resonates with them. We over-react as we are reacting not only to the event in the “now” but every event in our past and imagined future with a similar vibrational energy or resonance.
We constantly experience two sources of stress: internal and external. Internal stress is all the old emotions from the past and imagined future. You carry all of your experiences and emotions with you, in your nervous system and subconscious mind. This includes unresolved feelings of anger, grief, fear, and inadequacy. External stress is the demands life puts on us now. Internal and external stress are always combining to create the level of stress we’re experiencing at any moment.
When we carry the burden of unresolved and buried feelings, we create chronic stress. Chronic stress reduces our ability to handle even minimal stress in the “now”, unhappiness, over-reaction, and can lead to serious health problems.
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E Komo Mai! Welcome to Conscious Maui’s final Fruit of the Month Blog of 2019, Hold on to your Sarong we are going to talk story about the Avocado! You know this one! Hopefully, we will share some new information on ways to eat Avos, when to pick them, and how to grow them (P.S. they grow themselves here). There is even an amazing recipe for healthy chocolate mousse made with Avocado!
Last month we share some good details about choosing Guava safely. If you missed last months featured fruit of the month be sure to check out last month’s post about Guava.
What is Avocado:
This month we shine the light on Avocado. Pea (pay-ah) in Hawaiian. There are many varieties of avocado, with a wide range in size, shape and color, yet somehow easily identified. An avo can be as small as a few ounces in size or it can weigh in at up to 3 lbs. They can be light green to blackish green and everything in between. Some avocados are shaped like a pear and some round like a ball. But consistently avos are nutritious.
Where to get Avocado:
Everywhere, avocado are readily available fresh or packaged. On Maui the grocery stores will almost always have avocados waiting for you, but they may have been unsustainably shipped here from other countries or the mainland over 2,000 miles away. Requesting local grown avocado, and other produce, helps to lessen the carbon footprint while supporting a local farmer and ensuring the freshest quality produce for you and your family.
When to Harvest Avocado:
Frequently, different varieties of avocado are harvested at different times of the year here on Maui. There will be sometimes when it seems to be raining avocado, especially if you have a tree in your yard. If you can eat it all, Great! If not…SHARE. If you do not have a tree in your yard all that needs to be done to grow an avocado tree here on Maui, especially on the rainy parts of the island, is to place an avo seed outside in a place you would like a tree. If you have avocado seeds in your compost pile they will grow into a tree there whether you want them to or not. There is no need to poke toothpicks in the seed to be able to soak half on the seed in water. Plants want to live and thrive, just put the pit somewhere you would like a tree. And then smile because you have done a good thing!
How to eat Avocado:
Cut in Half, remove large seed and plant it. Cut a tic tac toe into the yellow-green flesh of the fruit then scoop it out as cubes. You can also peel the skin away. Avo is great in salads, mix it with salsa to make instant guacamole, or eat it plain. The seeds hold so much live energy they blend easily into smoothies. There is a chocolate avo mousse recipe down below too. Great plain, or add some lemon and salt. There really is no wrong way to enjoy avocado!
Why Avocado is so healthy:
Avocado is an Incredibly Nutritious low carbohydrate fruit, packed with good fats, and contains nearly 20 vitamins and minerals – Vitamin C, E, K and B-6, Riboflavin, Niacin, folate, pantothenic acid, magnesium and potassium. This cholesterol free fruit is virtually the only fruit containing the good fat, the heart-healthy, Monounsaturated Fat. The majority of the calories come from GOOD FAT, so eat up. Avocados provide Lutein, Beta carotene and omega-3 fatty acids too. Any they come to you in a perfect compostable wrapper, that can be peeled off or used as a little bowl to use to eat your avo!
And did you know, Avocado can even be turned into Chocolate pudding? Now you do! Here’s a recipe: